Bovi Ugboma’s Parenting Style and Views on Discipline Spark Debate

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Nigerian comedian and actor, Bovi Ugboma, has found himself at the center of a heated debate after sharing his unconventional parenting approach. Speaking on The Honest Bunch podcast, Bovi addressed his opposition to corporal punishment and emphasized the importance of understanding and empathy when raising children. His remarks have since triggered mixed reactions on social media, sparking conversations about modern parenting styles and discipline.



Bovi’s Parenting Philosophy



During the interview, Bovi recounted incidents where his son broke three televisions out of frustration. Instead of responding with physical punishment, he advocated for addressing behavioral issues with patience and understanding.



“I don’t advocate for beating children. You should let children be. My son dey break television for the fun of it. If he vex, he go throw stuff and break it,” Bovi said.



He clarified that his child later showed remorse, and his approach to parenting was shaped by his ability to replace broken items. “Thank God for capacity; if I couldn’t afford another TV, then the approach would have been different. Most times when we hit kids, check: are you really trying to correct them, or are you frustrated?” he added.



The Social Media Backlash



Bovi’s revelations ignited sharp reactions on social media, particularly on X (formerly Twitter). Critics argued that his approach could encourage indiscipline, while others applauded his stance against physical punishment.



Chinaza Victoria (#love_Victoria17) expressed concern about children acting out without boundaries. “Imagine being a teacher and having a student or pupil like Bovi’s son? These are attitudes that make teachers fed up, and the parents come to fight,” she tweeted.



Similarly, Mazi Nathan (#rukky_nate) criticized Bovi for failing to enforce discipline. “What do you mean your son throws stuff and breaks your TV when he is angry, and you let him walk without reproach? This has damaging effects,” Nathan argued.



In contrast, supporters of Bovi’s views highlighted alternative approaches to discipline. #softhardguy echoed Bovi’s sentiments but emphasized the importance of teaching children consequences. “I don’t advocate for beating children either. But I advocate for teaching children about cause and effect, about how their actions have consequences. We must help build their character,” he shared.



Another supporter, Mfon Abia (#PrettyMfon), suggested that the child’s behavior could stem from developmental challenges, such as communication issues or special needs. “The behavior his child displayed is the behavior of children with special needs, and hitting them is not the solution. What they need is behavioral therapy, not beating,” she explained.



Bovi Responds to Critics



Responding to the backlash, Bovi took to X on Tuesday to clarify his perspective. He revealed that his son had a speech impediment and communication difficulties, which were just beginning to improve.



“My child had a speech impediment and a communication problem that’s only just starting to improve,” Bovi wrote. He further stated, “I don go trigger angry people because of the phrase I used, ‘For the fun of it.’ Make una no vex. If you have children you want to beat, enjoy. My papa no physically beat me, and I turned out almost ok.”



Addressing Bullying and School Discipline



Beyond parenting, Bovi also criticized bullying in schools and the hierarchical system that gives authority to older students over younger peers. He expressed concern over the culture of abuse that starts in secondary schools, where “senior students” punish their juniors.



“No child should be given authority over another child in the name of ‘senior student.’ They are children,” Bovi stated. He questioned whether parents would accept a 16-year-old flogging their child simply because of the hierarchical system.



He further linked this culture of forced respect to societal issues. “The white man left us and created a system for us to colonize ourselves. So everybody is waiting to get to that top to show themselves to everybody. It starts from secondary school with a glorified torture where a student beats another student,” Bovi argued.



A Call for Individualized Parenting



Bovi wrapped up his thoughts on parenting by highlighting the need to understand that every child is different, and a “one-size-fits-all” approach is flawed.



“You can’t raise four children the same way. That’s why you see some children say, ‘I love my dad,’ and the sibling is saying, ‘I hate my dad.’ It’s because the father used the same template for all of them,” he explained.



Bovi Ugboma’s parenting style and views on discipline have reignited a critical conversation about child-rearing practices, corporal punishment, and bullying in Nigerian schools. While his approach has faced criticism, it underscores the growing importance of understanding children’s unique challenges and fostering healthier relationships through empathy rather than fear.



The comedian’s candid remarks challenge traditional norms and invite parents, educators, and society at large to rethink how discipline and respect are instilled in the next generation.

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Nigerian comedian and actor, Bovi Ugboma, has found himself at the center of a heated debate after sharing his unconventional parenting approach. Speaking on The Honest Bunch podcast, Bovi addressed his opposition to corporal punishment and emphasized the importance of understanding and empathy when raising children. His remarks have since triggered mixed reactions on social media, sparking conversations about modern parenting styles and discipline.

Bovi’s Parenting Philosophy

During the interview, Bovi recounted incidents where his son broke three televisions out of frustration. Instead of responding with physical punishment, he advocated for addressing behavioral issues with patience and understanding.

“I don’t advocate for beating children. You should let children be. My son dey break television for the fun of it. If he vex, he go throw stuff and break it,” Bovi said.

He clarified that his child later showed remorse, and his approach to parenting was shaped by his ability to replace broken items. “Thank God for capacity; if I couldn’t afford another TV, then the approach would have been different. Most times when we hit kids, check: are you really trying to correct them, or are you frustrated?” he added.

The Social Media Backlash

Bovi’s revelations ignited sharp reactions on social media, particularly on X (formerly Twitter). Critics argued that his approach could encourage indiscipline, while others applauded his stance against physical punishment.

Chinaza Victoria (#love_Victoria17) expressed concern about children acting out without boundaries. “Imagine being a teacher and having a student or pupil like Bovi’s son? These are attitudes that make teachers fed up, and the parents come to fight,” she tweeted.

Similarly, Mazi Nathan (#rukky_nate) criticized Bovi for failing to enforce discipline. “What do you mean your son throws stuff and breaks your TV when he is angry, and you let him walk without reproach? This has damaging effects,” Nathan argued.

In contrast, supporters of Bovi’s views highlighted alternative approaches to discipline. #softhardguy echoed Bovi’s sentiments but emphasized the importance of teaching children consequences. “I don’t advocate for beating children either. But I advocate for teaching children about cause and effect, about how their actions have consequences. We must help build their character,” he shared.

Another supporter, Mfon Abia (#PrettyMfon), suggested that the child’s behavior could stem from developmental challenges, such as communication issues or special needs. “The behavior his child displayed is the behavior of children with special needs, and hitting them is not the solution. What they need is behavioral therapy, not beating,” she explained.

Bovi Responds to Critics

Responding to the backlash, Bovi took to X on Tuesday to clarify his perspective. He revealed that his son had a speech impediment and communication difficulties, which were just beginning to improve.

“My child had a speech impediment and a communication problem that’s only just starting to improve,” Bovi wrote. He further stated, “I don go trigger angry people because of the phrase I used, ‘For the fun of it.’ Make una no vex. If you have children you want to beat, enjoy. My papa no physically beat me, and I turned out almost ok.”

Addressing Bullying and School Discipline

Beyond parenting, Bovi also criticized bullying in schools and the hierarchical system that gives authority to older students over younger peers. He expressed concern over the culture of abuse that starts in secondary schools, where “senior students” punish their juniors.

“No child should be given authority over another child in the name of ‘senior student.’ They are children,” Bovi stated. He questioned whether parents would accept a 16-year-old flogging their child simply because of the hierarchical system.

He further linked this culture of forced respect to societal issues. “The white man left us and created a system for us to colonize ourselves. So everybody is waiting to get to that top to show themselves to everybody. It starts from secondary school with a glorified torture where a student beats another student,” Bovi argued.

A Call for Individualized Parenting

Bovi wrapped up his thoughts on parenting by highlighting the need to understand that every child is different, and a “one-size-fits-all” approach is flawed.

“You can’t raise four children the same way. That’s why you see some children say, ‘I love my dad,’ and the sibling is saying, ‘I hate my dad.’ It’s because the father used the same template for all of them,” he explained.

Bovi Ugboma’s parenting style and views on discipline have reignited a critical conversation about child-rearing practices, corporal punishment, and bullying in Nigerian schools. While his approach has faced criticism, it underscores the growing importance of understanding children’s unique challenges and fostering healthier relationships through empathy rather than fear.

The comedian’s candid remarks challenge traditional norms and invite parents, educators, and society at large to rethink how discipline and respect are instilled in the next generation.