Healthy relationships do not just happen. There is an art and science to building strong relationships. Romantic relationships are important for our happiness and well-being. Yet with more than 40 percent of new marriages ending in divorce, it’s clear that relationships aren’t always easy. Fortunately, there are steps you can take to keep your romantic partnership in good working order.
These are indispensable tips, written with romantic relationships in mind, but with a little modification you can apply them to your friendships, family, and even work relationships.
A. Know what you can give.
This will unlock the secret of what you want from the relationship, because after all love is all about give and take. So know what you can do for him or her and for your relationship before expecting something from the other.
B. Connect with the different parts of yourself.
Each of us is not a solo instrument. We’re more like a choir or an orchestra with several voices. What is your mind saying? What is your heart saying? What is your body saying? What is your “gut” saying?
For example: My mind is saying “definitely leave her,” but my heart says “I really love her.”
Let these different voices or parts of you co-exist and speak to one another. In this way, you will find an answer that comes from your whole self. It is important that there is sync between all the voices inside you concerning your relationship.
C. Value Intimacy.
Intimacy is a critical component of romantic relationships. Some busy couples find it helpful to schedule sex by putting it on the calendar. It may not necessarily be sex all the time. There can be intimacy without sex too. It may not be spontaneous to have it written in red ink, but setting aside time for an intimate encounter helps ensure that your physical and emotional needs are met.